one of the most important things, perhaps the most important thing I have learned in my life is that nice people can fuck each other up in monstrous ways. people can be bone deep kind and loving and self reflective and still lash out under pressure. people can be earnestly neighbourly and charitable and hospitable and generous and still find themselves in situations where they become selfish. people can be well meaning and easygoing and gregarious and hold deep seated opinions that turn them into vicious little bullies under the right conditions. nobody is just one thing, and nobody stays one way. every person is a kaleidoscope and they will surprise you. you will surprise yourself. it’s not a warning and it’s not a judgement and it’s not an excuse, and it’s certainly not a reason to stop trying or to stop trusting. it is just a fact.
if ur confused about why animal people advocate for keeping your pets at a “healthy weight” but sometimes also in the same breath will advocate against human diet culture, its because we know what body condition a cat is supposed to be at optimally. but literally there is not one for humans as far as we can tell.
humans are a weird, opportunistic, hyper-adaptable and variable primate and we have evolved to have a LOT of variety in size, shape, metabolism, and weight retention. this has been essential to survival in hard times and easy times. you know the thing people talk about sometimes how about half the population are night people and about half are morning people so we’d be better able to watch at night as a group? yeah, weight variation is like that: there’s a lot of latent variation in human populations because as a community we survive significantly better if some of us are fuckin ready to not die during the longass winter of death and some of us can eat their weight in fish and then run a mile immediately after. this is also why some people gain muscle crazy fast and some people don’t: muscle requires a lot of energy, so some people are built to gain a lot during a plentiful season and be really efficient then and some people are built to use less energy over time and be more useful during a long hungry period. cats and almost all other vertebrates simply don’t have this kind of complex community variation built in, and tend to be much more uniform in build and weight. humans tend to be really variable in body and brain, and that’s one of the biggest factors that’s made us so successful! there are just a LOT of ways to be a human being.
all of the “science” on “ideal human body condition” we have at the moment is almost entirely bullshit and was done by white supremacists for eugenics purposes. it’s just not something we know, and right now there’s significantly more evidence that there is no ideal body type for everyone to reach. recent research indicates that humans are healthiest at a variety of weights and builds, and dieting is almost universally bad for you. even if the culture hasn’t caught up yet.
“We don’t tolerate wrinkles” is a MAD thing to say. Girl what?
The worst part is that this straw was most likely made for oral motor disabilities where the usual straw position would be difficult to use due to not being able to generate proper suction for any number of reasons. And it was co-opted by this “anti-aging” bullshit. Everyone in the notes saying you’d smack someone you saw using this— I understand the frustration about it in this instance but don’t make assumptions about anyone you’d actually see using it. There are legitimate uses for this outside of the harmful industry that stole it.
So my brand of autism comes with the “takes things literally” dlc but not in the way that I believe people when they say outlandish things but in the way that I believed my mother when she told me I can’t draw at age 5 and then again when she told me I’m not an artist when I tried to apply for an art academy so I gave up on drawing around middle school because I took it literally that I am NOT an artist and cannot be. Same for when she told me I can’t ever go to college, my child brain just accepted that as fact.
I took it literally when I worked in a factory and they had set goals for us and I worked myself to permanent injury, not understanding the unspoken rule of “take it slow and don’t worry about hitting the goal” because the managers knew they could take advantage of me and I’d do what they told me to do and all the other employees disliked me because I tried too hard and that could make the goals higher for everyone but nobody communicated this to me
I think one of the biggest issues with autism evaluations is that they don’t explain these things to people being evaluated. Taking things literally doesn’t mean I don’t understand sarcasm or jokes. It means I am easy to manipulate and take advantage of.
Also the general public’s perception of what this means is an issue too. I’m starting to think we all, or most, understand sarcasm perfectly well. It’s the other forms of ‘social insincerity’ that we struggle with. Framing it as “not getting sarcasm” I think has done very deep damage.
Exactly. So many people don’t know what autism actually is to the point of not knowing they themselves are autistic.
The company isn’t boasting about using cheap/unpaid/forced penal labor.
It’s a project offering voluntary employment opportunities with fair trade wages to incarcerated women, allowing them to amass decent savings and avoid recidivism (i.e., having to return to prostitution, drug muling, and the other poverty-related crimes as soon as their sentences are up, because they’re right back in poverty where they started).
No, it’s not the all-or-nothing Tumblr justice solution™ of magically abolishing the PIC overnight, but it’s a significant improvement over the literal slave labor most corporations employ, while raking in the entirety of a prisoner’s surplus and setting them up for recidivism.
Y'all….this isn’t slave labor the way the vast majority of prusin labor is. They have a 30 hour work week and pay their employees a LIVING WAGE. Also the company was founded after talking to women in prison about their lives and needs